As a mother of 3 (4, 2.5 and 1 years young) active little mites, I've certainly been witness to a fair share of interesting behaviours! One of my greatest challenges is maintaining true consistency when approaching behaviour that naturally stirs frustration, anger & out bursts.

 

BumbleBeeBaby.net | When Every Day appears to be a Bad Day (Part 1 of 4)

 

Work demands an extortive amount of my time & despite the numerous external factors that effect my mood, energy levels & patience, consistency needs to maintain its roots. It has to be grounded & concrete. That's the theory anyway!

Testing behaviour will happen - that's a given! Perhaps one way to front run a potential (and probable) reactive out burst may be to try and understand/ identify why our child is throwing fist to floor and creating a stampede sensation...


Lets explore a few possible reasons:


*Change - yes ... change effects children too! Both big & small, the slightest alteration to their environment can be unsettling & result in 'irrational' behaviour.

*Your emotions - children are incredibly perceptive & they have the ability to detect unhappiness on the spot. Be mindful of your own emotions & how you reflect your feelings.

*Previous measures - choose carefully! We all bribe, plead & woo our kids to encourage good behaviour especially when we are in public. Ever used sweets as a tool to get your way? Then don't be surprised if they scream for sweets when out & about.

*Could you accidentally be encouraging difficult behaviour? - could they be trying to get our attention (even bad attention)? Perhaps trying to give them more time/ attention when they are behaving well and less time when they are being difficult could help turn events?

*Try tally the times - is there a pattern to your child's difficult behaviour? Could they be tired, hungry, over excited, frustrated or bored?

 

BumbleBeeBaby.net | When Every Day appears to be a Bad Day (Part 1 of 4)



Let's recap ... tantrums will happen ... They are a form of expression & until our kids have the right skills to channel their emotions in a constructive manner, this is what we will be faced with.


By taking a moment to understand/ identify the cause/ catalyst for the ''jiggle'' may help us better resolve the situation ... and in turn, setting an example of how one applies appropriate coping skills.
Again ... That is the theory :)!

At the risk of stating the obvious, all children & parents are different ... I'd love to hear your views & coping mechanisms.


Lastly, never underestimate a glass of wine at the end of a long day !! ;)

Till next week ....


[Part 1 of our 4 part ' When Every Day appears to be a Bad Day...']