We are on the home stretch with our 4-part blog on ‘testing' behaviours and how one can apply positive responses to address these moments … 

For a quick recap …

 

BumbleBeeBaby.net | When Every Day Appears to be a Bad Day (Part 3 of 4)… Temper Tantrums

 

This week we discuss the pinnacle of Tempers … Tantrums!

Temper Tantrums can start from around 18months, although my second daughter challenged this theory and blessed us with her first out burst (obviously she chose a spot beaming with people) on her first birthday. Ill never forget the moment. Dressed in a beautiful red and blue scotty dog dress … all arms and legs (I am sure there were more than just a pair on the day) in motion … she certainly created a memorable scene. 

So, as I was saying … 18months + is the typical age and as the stat (UK) reads, 1 in 5 2year olds has a temper tantrum every day (don’t feel so alone anymore? … You are not). One reason for this is that 2 year olds really want to express themselves, but find this difficult given a possible limited vocabulary. This results in a huge amount of frustration and hence the outburst.

Once a child is able to communicate more clearly through speech - these outbursts are less likely to happen.

Some of these pointers may just help you ride it out … 

 

Find out why the Tantrum is happening: 

Could it be something as simple as tiredness or hunger - if so, those are easy fixes. Could they be feeling frustrated or jealous of another child? They may need some time, attention and love, even though I appreciate they are not being very lovable … counting to 20 is often helpful in these cases!

 

Understand and accept your child’s anger:

You probably feel the same way at times but you have the ability to channel your frustration in a more positive manner. 

You could try - 

 

Find a distraction: If you can smell a tantrum starting up (they can spring up on you rather abruptly) find a distraction that you know will hold some weight. Something along the lines of ‘look at …’ - you get my drift. If that doesn’t work .. 

 

Sit it out: Losing your temper or shouting back will not make the tantrum end. Ignore the looks you get from people around you (it will happen) and concentrate on staying calm. ‘Giving in’ will not help in the long run. If you have said NO … don’t then change your mind and say YES just to end the tantrum. Otherwise, your child will think that tantrums pay. Buying your way out of the situation is also a no go … you will do it, I have done it (still do it when I need to :)) but it's not a good resolution to adopt. 

 

Remove yourself from the scene: If you are at home and it is safe to do so … try removing yourself from the room. A little bit of breathing space does wonders.

 

I hope you find this useful and that the week ahead makes for some peaceful days … 

 

Enjoy!

The BumbleBeeBaby Team

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